More likely than not, you were taught as a child not to quit. The phrases of, “quitters never win” and “don’t be a quitter” were drilled into your head time and time again. While perseverance is an extremely valuable attribute to have – and one that heavily contributes to accomplishing just about anything – it is important to know when and what you should, in fact, quit. It’s important to evaluate that path that you are on and identify the things that are getting in your way. If you can learn to identify your roadblocks and remove them or ‘quit’ allowing them to get in your way, it will help you to produce much better results and get you moving towards success!
So, ask yourself, are you stuck in a rut? Are you constantly getting the same unwanted results? Are you ready for a positive change?
If the answer is yes, then consider quitting these five things.
Living In The Past
First and foremost, you need to choose to move forward and think about the future—where you are headed—not the past. If you are dwelling on the could have’s, should have’s, and would have’s, you will find yourself in a sinkhole limiting any forward progression. Typically, people find themselves living in the past because of something difficult that happened or resentment of a situation. Hanging onto things like this is a personal poison that ultimately doesn’t affect anyone but yourself. While you should learn from your past, don’t stay there—you decide who you are and where you want to go next. Choose to think about the future, move on from what has happened, and turn the next page in your story.
While analysis can be good, over thinking something can become a total waste of time and can cause analysis paralysis. It is important to recognize that thoughts don’t make things happen, your actions do, and analysis is only productive if it is followed by an action plan. Stop letting your thoughts run wild and consume you. Remember, don’t always believe everything you think. If you do find yourself tied up in over-thinking, seek perspective from someone who has been through a similar experience and can help you to determine effective next steps to move past the current challenge.
You can’t change outcomes in your life unless you are willing to change the causes. Yes, change can be scary but remember it might be necessary in order to get the results you desire. Feeling afraid of something only exists in your mind, so that means if you created it and you can destroy it by replacing your negative thoughts with positive ones. Most of the time it’s not even fear that you are feeling, it’s just the feeling of being uncomfortable with a new idea or a new experience. It’s been proven that if you do the uncomfortable enough, it will become comfortable. So stop fearing positive change in your life and go for it! You can stronger than your fears.
Putting Yourself Down
A lot of what you will or will not accomplish in your life has to do with how you think about yourself and how you talk about yourself. Your words determine your thoughts which lead to actions and ultimately produce your results, so it’s time to quit thinking and speaking negative about yourself and replace those thoughts and words with positive ones. It all starts with your personal affirmations—be your own biggest cheerleader, speak optimistically of your abilities, and believe you can accomplish anything!
Trying to Please Everyone
The notion of making everyone happy all the time is an impossible feat to accomplish and if you go about your day trying to please everyone and constantly saying, ‘yes’ to other’s requests, you will be setting yourself up for failure. You simply cannot make every person around you happy. Quit saying, ‘yes’, to everything people ask you to do, and learn to say, ‘no, thank you’. Saying ‘yes’ to everything leads to overcommitting, which will limit how much you can accomplish since you will no longer have the time to do what is already on your plate.
The skill of knowing when to stay committed to something positive and when to quit something negative is a learned ability, meaning anyone can be taught how to do it. Ultimately the choice is yours, to quit the things that are holding you back and focus on creating an awesome future!